Groping/harassment happens everyday & very few get reported. Here are some of those stories. 

Hands free or hands off #5b

In this episode, we hear from our listeners. And a note from Boju Bajai on male entitlement and consent.

Readings:
https://news.cornell.edu/stories/2020/08/male-entitlement-hurts-women-manne-writes-new-book

https://ekantipur.com/news/2022/02/21/16454456041257987.html

In this episode, we hear from our listeners. And a note from Boju Bajai on male entitlement and consent.

#67 "Are You from Mongolia?" Part 2

Produced by - Rajan Shrestha aka Phatcowlee
To watch full video - youtu.be/-oTePnqQz6g
Featured in Ep 4 of Guff Gaff with Boju Bajai (youtu.be/itL42WgcSQY)

Only Sex?

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Disclaimer: This episode contains foul language and is intended for 18+ listeners.

In this episode, Shailee and Pallavi Payal take over Boju Bajai and talk about what it means to be a Madhesi, a Nepali, and a Madhesi woman in Nepal.

#41 को कति नेपाली!

विशेष धन्यवाद to Flekke for the music and Phatcowlee Rajan Shrestha for mixing magic.
Podchaser code:
SjcuPezLLFRoIppwuNd9

Here are some video links to Flekke's originals :

www.youtube.com/watch?v=RTdzznK02-4
www.youtube.com/watch?v=xT7k0zeKR-M
www.youtube.com/watch?v=1koSDrxNpSA

Find her on Bandcamp at flekke.bandcamp.com

Find Phatcowlee here : @phatcowlee

Headphones लगाम् र नयाँ वर्ष विशेष एपिसोड सुनम्।

New year, new world

In these dark and uncertain times, we attempt to bring some joy with our guff gaff and laugh with the one and only Bartika Rai :)

Guff gaff with Bartika

इन्टरनेटमा हाम्रो अनुभवबारे गफगाफ गरियो अस्ति Boju Bajai Live मा । How do women own the social media space? How should we respond to trolls or social media abuse? How can we deal with social media fatigue? How do we choose the battles we want to fight?

यो Boju Bajai Live को अन्तिम अंश हो। धैर्य धारण गरिदिनु भएकोमा फेरि पनि मुरी मुरी धन्यवाद।

Read Durga Karki's सोझो केटो here
www.setopati.com/opinion/132445

Listen to the first two episodes of Boju Bajai Live here Bojubajai – Opening-act
and here Bojubajai – Bgjvcymrxfgs 

How do women own the social media space? How should we respond to trolls or social media abuse? How can we deal with social media fatigue?

सोझो केटो, surveillance and social media

इन्टरनेटमा हाम्रो अनुभवबारे गफगाफ गरियो अस्ति Boju Bajai Live मा ।
What is a woman's experience online? How do you navigate between the personal and the public persona on social media?
आउने हप्ताहरुमा Boju Bajai Live को बाँकी अंशहरु upload गर्नेछौ । धैर्य धारण गरिदिनु भएकोमा फेरि पनि मुरी मुरी धन्यवाद।
Listen to the first bit of of Boju Bajai Live here Bojubajai – Opening-act

What is a woman's experience online? How do you navigate between the personal and the public persona on social media?

सामाजिक सन्जाल र आफ्नो पहिचान

केहि महिलाहरुलाई भेला गरेर इन्टरनेटमा हाम्रो अनुभवबारे गफगाफ गरियो अस्ति Boju Bajai Live मा । What is a woman's experience online? What it means to be on social media and how do you deal with the emotional toll social media and internet take on us?
आउने हप्ताहरुमा Boju Bajai Live को बाँकी अंशहरु upload गर्नेछौ । धैर्य धारण गरिदिनु भएकोमा मुरी मुरी धन्यवाद।

Manel organize गर्न साह्रै गाह्रो रहेछ हौ, सक्षम पुरुष नै नपाइने भन्या! त्यसैले केहि महिलाहरुलाई भेला गरेर इन्टरनेटमा हाम्रो अनुभवबारे गफगाफ गरियो ।

सक्षम पुरुषको खोज: Opening Act

Guff gaffing about what made us cringe, laugh and curse in 2019. Highlights of 2019 from the Nepali internet, politics and media, Boju Bajai isshtyle!

If you like our work and want to support us, you can find us on Patreon - patreon.com/bojubajai

If you are in Nepal and can't use your card to support our work on Patreon, we are esewa as well hai - esewa id 9803030926

Guff gaffing about what made us cringe, laugh and curse in 2019. Highlights of 2019 from the Nepali internet, politics and media, Boju Bajai isshtyle!

Resolution 2020: Feminist ki Humanist?

We talk to Muna about translations, about women, often forgotten by Nepal's literary circle and her amazing Lightroom Conversation series, where she speaks with some of the most interesting figures in Nepal's literary scene.

Also, we are taking a season break aka Puja holidays, bishes! We will be back with more fun guff gaff in 2020. We hope you enjoy this hour-plus guff gaff, season finale :)

Link to the series www.nepalitimes.com/author/muna-gurung/

Say hello to Muna, our third boju, and brilliant writer/translator friend. We talk to her about women, often forgotten by Nepal's literary circle.

All Things Literary

In this very cheesy episode, we talk about why friendship is important and how it shapes our lives. And why we need more deep portrayal of female, queer and all kinds of non-broey friendship in our books and movies.

Also, a big thank you to everyone who shared their friendship stories with us.

If you enjoy our laugh and guff gaff, please consider being our patron hai. More details here hai www.patreon.com/bojubajai

Follow us on Instagram, Twitter and FB @bojubajai hai

In this very cheesy episode, we talk about why friendship is important and how it shapes our lives.

Wanna Make Fraandship?

In this episode, we take a look at the stand-up scene in Nepal and the type of content that is being produced and consumed by a large, easily influenced, and relatively young audience.
Are our comedians just assuming their audience is dumb, or are they dumbing down their audience? We also talk a bit about our evergreen, never ageing hero, Mr. Bhuwan KC. Ohoo! Bhuwan Kc?



We take a look at Nepal's stand-up scene, the type of content being produced & consumed by a large, easily influenced, and relatively young audience.

No More Dick Jokes, please. Thank you.

Bhrikuti lovingly calls her periods, Rajaswala didi, but does didi love her back?

In this episode, we talk about women's relationship to their bodies and how Nepali newspapers are courting and publishing an increasing number of personal narrative pieces written by women writers.

While personal narratives are inspiring and spark important conversations, are they enough to bring about structural change? What more can Nepali media do besides publishing more content written by women writers?

Bhrikuti lovingly calls her periods, Rajaswala didi, but does didi love her back? मिन्स् means what? What is this behavior, Rajaswala didi?

Namaste Rajaswala didi!

Want to give us a belated birthday present? 
We are now on 
@patreon
 and we have many plans for the coming year: new equipment, a live event (yay)! So, if you like what we do and would like to support us, please consider becoming our patron :)
https://patreon.com/bojubajai

BojuBajai turns three. हाँस्दै, पितृसत्तालाई उडाउदै समय बितेको पत्तै चल्दैन रेछ ! तपाईहरुको साथ यसरी निरन्तर रहिरहोस्। 


Birthday Feelings

नयाँ वर्ष, नयाँ एपिसोड् अनि उही पुरानो गन्थन cos #citizenshipthroughmothers को लडाइ जारी छ। तीन वर्षमा के के भइसक्यो, #blackhole को तस्वीर आइसक्यो,तर हाम्रा hyper राष्ट्रवादी bros भने त्यहि विभेदकारी प्रावधानको प्रतिरक्षा गर्दै बस्दैछन् । #whythiskolaveridi

The world's "best constitution" doesn't give equal citizenship rights to Nepali women cos some citizens are more equal than others, haina bro?

Yo! Yo desh kasko?

नेपाली संगीत जगतको चीरफार in Boju Bajai isshtyle! Do popular Nepali songs and music represent our lived experiences? What are the characters on screen singing about, and who determines what kind of music becomes "mainstream" in Nepal? All this and much much more in this episode!  

Thanks to all the artists who gave us permission to use their tracks. Links to all the songs we talked about is here. Please do check them out.

Fuzzscape: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GLH6vVpQBTE&t=1066s

Rai ko Ris: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Cz1zbDspIU

Raithane Music: https://www.facebook.com/raithanemusic/videos/275552059800535/

हट्ने हैन( हटी हैन) डटी लड्ने: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BnqLuLxeS-g
Sajjan Raj Vaidya: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ogr6ygCwRwc

Pitch road: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RV8_VniF19o

Chyangba Hoi Chyangba: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JjmeuTnojzc



नेपाली संगीत जगतको चीरफार in Boju Bajai isshtyle! Do popular Nepali songs and music represent our lived experiences?  

Boju Bajai's Musical Break

वर्षौसम्म महिलाहरुमाथि यौन दुर्व्यवहार गर्दै आएका  
शक्तिशाली पुरुषहरूलाई गएको दुई वर्षमा #MeToo को आँधीले लडायो। कतिलाई भने आफ्नो भोगाइ भन्ने साहस दियो #MeToo ले।तर #Nepal मा चाहिँ किन यसबारे बहस,चर्चा चाहिँ फाट्फुट्मात्र भयो?यही सेरोफेरोमा २०१८लाई बिदा गर्दै तयार पारेको एपिसोड 
Why don't we believe women when they share their Me Too stories? Shouldn't we be talking about the skewed power structures and institutions that enable sexual misconduct and predatory behavior? In this episode, we also talk to a survivor of sexual harassment, who wrote about the ordeal she faced at the hands of her professor at Tribhuvan University.

यौन दुर्व्यवहार गर्दै आएका शक्तिशाली पुरुषहरूलाई गएको दुई वर्षमा #MeTooको आँधीले लडायो।तर Nepal मा चाहिँ किन यसबारे बहस,चर्चा चाहिँ फाट्फुट्मात्र भयो?

All Things #MeToo

 आफ्नोलागि समय र आफ्नो अलग्गै कोठा नभइन्जेलसम्म महिलाहरु सृजनात्मक काममा पूर्ण रुपले लागी पर्न सक्दैनन भन्ने तर्क ब्रिटिश लेखिका भर्जिनिया वुल्फ्ले सन् १९२८ मा गरेकी थिइन । झ्न्डै एक शताब्दी हुन लागि सक्यो तर त्यही कोठाकोलागी हाम्रो लडाइ जारी नै छ । यसपालिको गफ्गाफ त्यही लडाइबारे । In 1928 Virginia Woolf argued how important it is for women to have their own space to cultivate creativity. Nearly a century later, here we are talking about our unsuccessful pursuit of personal space and time.

 आफ्नोलागि समय र आफ्नो अलग्गै कोठा नभइन्जेलसम्म महिलाहरु सृजनात्मक काममा पूर्ण रुपले लागी पर्न सक्दैनन I  यसपालिको गफ्गाफ त्यही लडाइबारे । 

A Room of Our Own

I have nothing in common with them, except
I was once a young girl, just like them, but
I am alive. They are dead.
My body is of its shape, theirs was of a prey, 
now dead.
Unlike me, they will 
never get to see an eclipse of a life-time.

Itisha's moving response to the rape crisis and impunity in Nepal

A Survival Guide for Young Girls

When will the politicization of women's bodies end? Last month it was former law minister Sher Bahadur Tamang's sexist remarks on Nepali girls studying in Bangladesh. When the state refers to women as cheli-beti, it does so at the expense of our status as citizens which means it can pretend to love us, protect us, admonish us, taunt us instead of upholding our rights for equality, safety and dignity.

 It is convenient for the state to call us cheli-beti because once they refer to us as citizens they have to give us equal rights.

चेली बेटी भन्न बन्द गर #16

Nepal's editors and reporters tell us how they cover rape, sexual assault and why our newsrooms need to rethink how it reports rape and crimes of sexual violence. In this two-part episode in collaboration with The Record, we are going to look at how different public institutions including media deal with sexual violence.

Link to The Record's article 
bit.ly/2tT2DZy

नेपाली मिडियामा बलात्कार र यौन हिंसाबारे कसरी रिपोर्टिङ् हुन्छ? यसपालिको गफगाफ हाम्रा सम्पादक र पत्रकारहरुसँग ।

यौन हिंसाको रिपोर्टिङमा नेपाली मिडिया #15

Instead of discounts on refrigerators and jewelry, how about equal rights?

It's that time of the year again. So what are we marching for this time?



Everyday is not Women's Day #14

यसपालिको गफगाफ  सामाजिक सन्जालमा फोहोर मैला फैलाउने ट्रोल दाजु भाइ र जान्ने पल्टिन् खोज्ने मीम् पेज् का admin हरूलाई dedicate गर्न चाहन्छौ ।

'Tis the season for trolling the trolls. #13

यसपालिको गफगाफ  समाचारमा आएका पुरुषहरु, सामाजिक सन्जालमा फोहोर मैला फैलाउने ट्रोल दाजु भाइहरूलाई dedicate गर्न चाहन्छौ ।While stereotyping might be counter-productive, we see some value in countering the stereotyping of women and the perpetuation of gender types/roles. 

A special shout out to @bhenajuofficial and her hilarious videos - www.facebook.com/bhenajuofficial/
Woke Desi Men, www.buzzfeed.com/regajha/whos-the…boy-in-the-world

In this episode, we explore the 'types' of Nepali men we have come across.

The Nepali Man #12

We talk about our awkward introduction to sex, or shall we say reproduction. In this लास्टै bold episode we also share the epic journey of the condom from the shelf to the counter and why we need non-judgement gynaecologists.

51 Hilarious Jokes About Sex By Indian Women On Twitter
bzfd.it/2tsjxir

Soundtrack : Karz, 1980, Saregama Music

यौन, कन्डम, स्वास्थ्य शिक्षा, च्याठिएका स्त्री रोग विशेष्ज्ञ र यस्तै नानाथरी गफले भरिएको episode.

Let's talk about sex #11

In this episode we talk about local elections, women in Nepali politics and the female political career. How do media coverage of women politicians shape the way they are perceived? How difficult is it for women to enter a political environment that is built on patronage?

Links to the articles and reports we talk about the in this episode:

Kathmandu candidate numbers
www.onwardnepal.com/election/kathma…didate-numbers/

mahilakhabar.com/news/2017/05/05/25905.html

The Female Political Career - www.womeninparliaments.org/wp-content/…-Career.pdf

Nepali women voters : www.onwardnepal.com/election/nepali…ers-candidates/

Dalit women candidates bit.ly/2qLrP0T

50% पुगाउन सक्षम महिला भेटिएला त भन्ने 'सक्षम' जनहरुले यो एपिसोड सुन्नुस् होला है!

भोट कसलाई ?

Stop comparing our bodies to fruits, coke bottles and animal body parts. In this episode we talk about why we need to change the way we talk about women's bodies and appearance.

Follow Kripa Joshi and Miss Moti's adventures here www.missmoti.com/

Force feeding women in Mauritania www.marieclaire.com/politics/news/a…-in-mauritania/

"कस्तो मोटाको/ दुब्लाको/काली भाको" भनी अरूले टिप्पणी गर्दा खिस्स हाँसेर कुरा उडाए पनि,भित्रभित्रै त मन कति दुख्छ है I 

Shaming the body sham #10

मन मिल्ने कुरा त कोहि गर्दैनन्, बा !! जात, छालाको रंग र PR पाउने काम भए बिहे पक्का हुने। यस्तै रहेछ अअअअ हाम्रो घर परिवार र समाजको चलन।

In this episode, we talk about why we love and despise the wedding season. Also why our families and society treat us like छिप्पेको बोडी र भिन्डी if we ain't married by a "certain" age.


We miss the भोज भतेर, नक्क्ल झक्कल, दारु पानी, but not so much the "अनि तिम्रो चाहिँ कहिले" questions.

Band baaja baraat #8

We look back at the year 2016 and discuss the good (Nepali women who kicked ass), the bad (all-male panels) and a little bit of the ugly (sexist media reports+ trolls) . The year in review is here.

Link to the works of all the awesome women we talk about

Insta बहिनी Lhakyila www.instagram.com/lhakyila/?hl=en
Bartika Rai's Youtube channel bit.ly/2jdHhQT

Chaukath bit.ly/2jlrF0g

Sushila Maharjan, Phd wins Elsevier Foundation Awards for Women in Science bit.ly/1QhZC6M



Talking about the good (Nepali women who kicked ass),the bad (all-male panels) and a little bit of the ugly (sexist media reports+ trolls) from 2016.

Slaying it! #7

Based on the insightful piece 'घरकी बुहारी बोलाएर ससुरा र श्रीमानलाई गाली गर्न सिकाउने!' published by Manavi ji on Setopati, here is our special episode. हाम्रो विशेष प्रस्तुति को हुनेछ करोडपतिमा के भृकुटी जी ले नारीवाद, पुरूषतन्त्र, केटाकेटीको दशैंबारे यी पाँच प्रश्न जवाफ दिन सक्नु होला?

घरकी बुहारी बोलाएर ससुरा र श्रीमानलाई गाली गर्न सिकाउने! setopati.com/blog/57853/

Enjoyed the episode? Now take part in this fun quiz bit.ly/2gzCud7

हाम्रो विशेष प्रस्तुति 'को हुनेछ करोडपति' मा के भृकुटी जी ले नारीवाद, पुरूषतन्त्र, केटाकेटीको दशैंबारे यी पाँच प्रश्न जवाफ दिन सक्नु होला?

को हुनेछ करोडपति? #6

First part of two part episode on sexual harassment. 

Hands free or hands off #5a

Women - all tigras and temptations? According to some sections of the Nepali press, yes...

Dhamala lai Hamala #4

बाघ भालुको गफ  I We talk about bears, whores, and trolls.  



Bears and Whores #2

Two Nepali women in two continents talk about politics, media and feminism in South Asia and laugh out loud.